The title of the very first chapter in Michelle Farias' book, 25 WAYS TO KEEP YOUR CHILD HEALTHY AND SUCCESSFUL - Lessons from a School Counselor, sums up her life's work. It is the foundation of her work as explained in her book as well as on her website: www.ParentOnPurpose.com. Today, Michelle and her husband Tom provide counseling on their website and through tele-seminars as well as other products geared to encouraging individuals to reach their potential. Returning to Maintaining a Healthy Relationship with your child. Seems simple, but it's easier said than done. Michelle emphasizes many of the basics, and reminds us of the critical part we have in our children's lives, the development of who they are and may become , and the children's ultimate success not only in school but in life. And she comes at this from the unique angle of an experienced school counselor, who has observed and worked with children in one of their primary settings - school. Ms. Farias commences by reaffirming for us that as parents, we are extremely influential in our child's life. This is a responsibility that cannot be taken lightly, and it's imperative that we acknowledge that it does take a considerable amount of time and energy - as it should. For most of us in today's world, considering the frantic schedule, multiple jobs, commuting, and endless activities, just finding time is a big responsibility, but it is absolutely critical. Our children see the world through our eyes, at least for a while, and therefore we have the opportunity to help them explore a world in which they learn how to trust and feel safe. Michelle also emphasizes the importance of instilling trust in your children at an early age. By being present with them both physically and emotionally, being consistent in our own behavior, by being on call when they require safety, and by giving them validation, they learn to trust that those around them can be depended upon when needed. We are our children's first experience with the world, so by instilling confidence in them, by being in healthy relationships with them, we share the skills and self-assurance to extend themselves to others and be in other healthy relationships. Without that foundation of trust, children learn quickly that their world is an unsafe place, they don't seek the support of others such as teachers who could support them in attaining their goals, and they have more difficulty in forming friendships and spousal relationships as they grow up. Visit BlendedFamilyExperts.com to read more about Michelle Farias
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Yvonne Kelly, MSW, RSW, writes regularly for www.Blended-Families.com. Sign up for their free step parenting tips newsletter. WEBMASTERS: Use of this article requires a link to remain intact.
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